I think some riders forget to spend time with their horses on the ground and not in the saddle. Its good to have a bond with your horse, and remember how you feel or act, the horse knows. If you're anxious, the horse is going to be anxious because you're afraid of something and it feels that. If he's not listening, keep making him repeat it until he gets it correct. Correct a horse in 3 seconds or less, or bad habits form.