Thank you so much Eva, I will try all of this when I next get on him :)
You cannot lie with horses, they can feel every thought and every emotion of their rider, so I ask you:
Does your horse muck about because you are frustrated and stressed or does he do it and for this you are getting stressed about it and that gets him even worst??
The first thing you have to consider is that the horse is a living animal and that the reasons why he continues mucking might be several: he is young, he is learning, he is fresh and wants to play, he doesn't respect you, he isn't trained enough, etc.
Whatever the answer is you must consider that if you get frustrated then he will feel it and he will react with even more stress so the first thing to do is to learn how to manage your stress.
To deal with the stress you should learn how to manage your emotions by working on 2 main areas:
A) Your physiology , your body
your facial expression
If you want to transfer to your horse calm emotions you need to feel calm yourself so put your body and breathe as when you are calm, relax and smile
B) Your mind focus
1) Your inner dialogue
2) The questions you ask yourself
3) The words you use
Every thought and word has an impact on your emotions so ask yourself if the words you are using and the things you are telling yourself will put you in an emotion that is useful and calm or in an emotion that is not useful and stressed .
Become aware of what is happening in your mind and if it is not useful take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions and change them!!!
These are the first tips to start managing stress!!