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I've been shot down time and time again about getting a horse. My mom tells me to wait until I get a job after college but I want a horse going into uni Bc I want to be on the team. What can I do to convince her?

I've been shot down time and time again about getting a horse. My mom tells me to wait until I get a job after college but I want a horse going into uni Bc I want to be on the team. What can I do to convince her?
Convince her to lease to show her you are ready and get an expert or instructor to talk to and convince her.
I had to show my mum that I could look after a horse and it wasn’t just a ‘phase’ as everyone calls it. 😂 instead of buying a horse I leased one for 3 years that showed my parents that I could look after it properly.
I would wait as well...I bought my horse when I was 16...back then I had a job

Due to an accident in summer I lost my job and no I'm pretty much trapped...I saved money for a case like this but well...

Would your parents pay the monthly rent for the stall? And food and vet-bills? :/
Not everyone wants to do this, and it definitely comes with risks, but adopting/rescuing a horse. They are much cheaper than other horses and many of them are very well trained, just sold to the wrong people. You can visit local equine rescues and see what they have. This helps the community, and it's cheaper.
pay for the horse yourself
I leased before getting my first horse, as my parents were very hard to convince as well haha. I got a job and had to pay for my own lessons and everything extra I wanted to buy myself (saddle pads, boots, etc.) but my parents agreed to pay the rest (Board/vet/farrier/showing). For me, i sat them down & explained why I wanted to buy a horse (showing more often & bigger classes, I wanted more out of my riding than what I was getting, I wanted to be able to really mould a horse to me as a rider) and we talked about the pros and cons of owning vs leasing. In the end, that’s how it worked out for me, but it’s definitely a personal thing. I think you should talk it out & hear the reasoning your mum has for not getting a horse, and try to address her concerns with reasonable fixes. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out and trust me when I say that I know how frustrating it can be!! Just know that passion always pays off, and you’ll get there one way or another ;). I wish you the best of luck!!
A lot of times university teams provide horses.
As for getting your own.. I’ve been shot down just as you have, so I don’t really have any tips lol
show her that you can own up to the responsibility and that you can make money for the horse.

you could also say hey if i can show you 6 months of responsibility ( helping her around the house, helping at the barn, etc...) and work and get the money to buy the horse and his/hers first month of board, can i get a horse?

also try talking to your trainer to see if you're ready for a horse and if you are try to get your trainer to talk to your mom

ask the bar owner/ trainer to see if you can work off board. then tell you're mom if you can, and tell her that help make the expenses cheaper

try and lease a horse and show your mom that you can handle the responsibility and who knows you might fall in love with your lease horse and buy him/her

just have serious discussion with your mom and tell her that horses make you happy even if it's a lot of responsibility and money. tell her that you feel the only way to reach your goal and to get where you want to go in life is by owning your own horse ( they may sound cheesy but what horse person can live without a horse)

i really really hope this helps i know how hard it is to show you're ready for a horse and have the commitment for one!!!
Have you thought of leasing a horse instead of buying one? And don’t university equestrian teams provide horses?
And I want to get one soon so I can start competing and get the experience with my trainer. How do I make my mom understand?? I know it's a money issue and I'm aware of the responsibilities that go into it and i feel ready for it. And I'm willing to pay half or more than half of the costs of it. I just need new ideas