You can find lots of groundwork videos on YouTube or you might be able to go to a groundwork clinic or get a lesson from a groundwork trainer. Also, your name is awesome! Hahaha
Definitely do groundwork. It seems as if she does not respect you. But of course you need to get her first! I would say just sit/stand in the paddock. Be still and don’t try To walk to her, just stay. You could bring a small bucket of feed (or a treat) with you so when she does come, she is rewarded. I would do this a few times before you get her. Come in, wait until she comes, reward her, leave, (wait 15-20 min) repeat. Once you do that a few times and she starts to associate coming with reward, then bring the halter with you to get her. Once you have her, just do groundwork. I don’t tbink you should do any riding until she respects you on the ground. She will be so much better under saddle once she respects you, guaranteed.
By the sounds of it, your horse seems to be fearful and disrespectful - a combination of which is a recipe for disaster, as you'll have already figured out.
It seems that your horse would rather be anywhere but near you and there has to be a reason behind this. You don't fix the problem, you fix the CAUSE of the problem. There could be many causes here as to why your mare does not want to be near people, including:
- She associates people with work
- She associate people with pain
- She associates people with pressure
- She has severe anxiety and, instinctually, she will want to be around other horses for her own safety.
It is your job to ensure that you are the first person she wants to be with. Right now she doesn't see you as a leader she can trust, hence why she will continue to run away. I understand it can be frustrating, but all horses do things as a result of our own actions. Ensuring that when she's away from you, you make her work, and when she's near you, you allow her to relax and take off the pressure from her by walking away when she looks at you with two eyes and ears will make her want to be around you (making the wrong thing hard - the right thing easy). This can easily be done in a field.
If you enter the field and begin walking towards her and she walks away, put pressure on her by asking her to move away, making it your idea - not hers. If she wants to run away that's perfectly fine. After all, she is putting herself into work. Allow her to make that mistake, but make her work harder. For example, if she starts to walk away, you ask her to canter by clicking, swinging a rope, etc. Once she moves faster, relax yourself and release the pressure, but keep walking towards her. After a while, she will realise that she's tired and doesn't want to run anymore, so she will stop and turn to face you looking for release with two ears on you and two eyes. Once she does this, walk away immediately, releasing the pressure. This will create a draw, 'drawing' the horse's interest towards you. If not, ask her to move again. However, if she does begin to walk towards you, walk away and invite her into your space. No treats needed, but can be a good extra reward. ONLY use treats when your horse chooses to walk up to you, rather than you approaching them.
Gaining your horses respect is absolutely essential. You want to do this before even attempting to ride them. Respect is gained through consistent groundwork - not through running your horse in circles as done in traditional English lunging - rather lunging your horse for respect, which involves moving your horses feet left, right, forwards and backwards, yielding the hindquarters, changing their direction, etc. Clinton Anderson has done numerous videos on YouTube about lunging for respect with very clear explanations. I strongly advise you watch these as I did when looking at how to back and train my own mare. After watching these videos, put lunging for respect into practice before doing other exercises such as desensitisation to further gain her trust.
Once she realises that she wants to be around you because you are associated with rest, while being away from you means work, she'll choose you over grass any day! Just make the wrong thing hard and the right thing easy.
I've mainly focused on the catching problem here and drawing your horse towards you, making the wrong thing hard and the right thing easy. Remember, she's not being naughty or nasty, she's just trying to be somewhere else since she has not been shown that people are desirable to be around and she has learnt that people are not fun to be around, so naturally she will want to be somewhere else. Make that 'somewhere else' hard work and make being around you the easy option.
Pop over a message if anything is unclear - I'll be more than happy to explain since my mare used to behave in a similar way when I first got her. She ran off and bolted as a result of my own actions and my inability at the time to set her up for success. I've learned from my mistakes though and she has taught me what to and what not to do! :)
On Mondays and Wednesday’s I usually ride her in the afternoons so Mornings I try to just spend time with her in the paddock, but she just runs away. And usually before I ride her I usually just walk around the paddocks and greet the other horses and all but she doesn’t seem to bother with me or anyone really. She runs away from grooms and basically everyone. I was told it was a discipline issue as no one has taken the time out to correct her, and it might have something to do with her being alpha female.
About a month ago I asked how could I stop a horse running away from you. I was told to lunge her, give her treats and so on. I’ve tried almost everything. When I lunge her she bolts, takes off and jumps the fence and it takes forever to catch her again. Its very hard to lead her back to the stables without her trying to take off. Advice?