Remember, communication is key! She might not even realise she’s neglecting your riding cause she has so many other things on her plate. At the end of the day, we’re only human and we all make mistakes but just talk to her about what you want and where you want to do. But also trust that she will assist you towards your goals. It sucks for a trainer when their students don’t trust them.
I have had the same problem with my trainer. What I did was my mom and I sat down and talked with her. It helped us get on the same page for a while. You have to remember that they do work for you, even though it doesn’t seem like that sometimes. You are paying her for a service, and if the quality of her training isn’t helping you get to the level you want, it is okay to leave. But I think before you make the nuclear decision, definitely sit down with her and let her know your needs, and where you wish to go with your equestrian career. She can’t help you get to the level you want if she doesn’t know where you want to go. Hope this all gets worked out!
I would sit down and talk to your coach. If that doesn't work, the best thing to do is leave. Wasting money on someone who is uninterested in helping you is only hurting you if you are not learning anything.