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How do you regain your confidence when your nerve has been broken and you have also lost your confidence to ride or be close to a horse?

How do you regain your confidence when your nerve has been broken and you have also lost your confidence to ride or be close to a horse?
Thanks Maddy, one thing I do know that it is my choice now and not anyone elses.
Hi Jennifer,

That is so sad when something like that take you away from your passion... I totally understand..

As Hannah and Quin said, take it slow, step by step, that's the most important thing.
You are right when you say you have to start with ground work, just start by grooming, stay close to horses while not necessarily do something , you will learn to feel comfortable around them again.

Find the right place to do that, with people who will understand you and with whom you'll feel great and secure.

It might be a long way but I am sure you will do it!

Best luck x
I can only stroke them over the fence but definitely will take it slow as I want this to be my experience and not done because someone else has forced me to do it. I have had my various types of falls without breaking any bones until 2008 when I fell off my horse and gave my scrum a hairline fracture. She bucked me like a bronker and then she reared with me 5 years ago and I could not muck or feed them so I had to give them away. Have not ridden for 4 years now. I would like to get back on a horse but do it from the ground first and then take what I have learnt on the ground and do it in the saddle. Hopefully that way will build my confidence , as per natural horsemanship.
I know how you feel, it’s not fun but definitely try mindfulness if you haven’t heard of it before you go up to the barn or even do it with your horse just put in headphones and get the headspace app! No one will know :) they will just think ur listening to music but definitely start slow as what hannah said
Start slow so maybe just people in the area or padock with them. Then once comfortable with that start brushing them. After that you could probably just sit on them until you are comfortable, then work at the walk, trot, canter until comfortable. Then just continue doing more things on your horse.