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I rode for 9 years, then stopped last year because of personal problems and because of fear. I want to restart but I am scared that the fear I gained last time will come back. What do you think I should do?

I rode for 9 years, then stopped last year because of personal problems and because of fear. I want to restart but I am scared that the fear I gained last time will come back. What do you think I should do?
For all of you kind answers i can only thank you. And let you know that i made the decision of starting again and giving it another try. Thank you very much for your support! It made me think more clearly.
I rode for 6 years before taking a 6 year hiatus after a really bad fall. Take it in baby steps. Even if you just walk around the arena once, it’s progress. Be patient with yourself but everytime you feel that fear come up, face it and tell it “you will not steal my joy again.” Also, take deep, slow breaths will riding, because it prevents your brain from going into fight or flight mode
Hello! i have the same issue as you! i would highly recommend talking to a trainer and finding a school master type horse that will just pack you around! :)
Hello Leonor !

It is absolutely normal to have fears. You just need to accept it, and then decide not to let fear rule you. To be more confident, maybe choose a comfortable and safe horse (maybe an old one that will remain quite slow ahaha). Anyway, know that the only way to get ride of your fear is to ride again, and that by riding, your fear will progressively fade away. Just take your time, go step by step and everything will be fine. You can do it ! Let us know if you managed to ride again :-)
we all have fears. but it’s a matter of how we deal with them in order to overcome them. often times we avoid something because of our fear or our what if’s get in the way. it can be really frustrating too, trust me, i know. my advice to you is to get a trainer that is really helpful. someone who will work with you and not against you. having a well-behaved horse that you are comfortable with will really help as well. also, just have people you can talk to such as other riders, trainers, or just someone who understands and is willing to help. make goals with your trainer by taking baby steps to overcome this fear, whatever it may be. just don’t be too hard on yourself and give yourself time.

if you truly WANT to start riding again, ride!!! don’t let that fear get in the way. you got this! i know you do. but it’s up to you.